Sex can be confusing most of the times. There’s a lot of bad information floating around about sex. You may know that sex is a sacred act between two married people. But you see quite a different story while turn on your TV - people having casual or meaningless sex, using it to get revenge or to control people, or using it to advertise.

While you may have already had “The Sex Talk” with your parents, you may still have a few questions. Your parents, your teachers or your doctor would likely be happy to answer your questions, but let’s face it, some of this stuff
can be pretty embarrassing:

Wet Dreams
Sexy dreams can cause a guy to have an erection and ejaculate, or cum, during his sleep. When he wakes up, he’s wet and sticky. This is a wet dream. The same occurs in girls, but the amount of moisture they produce is much less, and therefore it’s not as noticeable. Wet dreams are pretty common at your age, but they don’t happen to everybody, so don’t worry if it doesn’t happen to you.

Fantasies
Fantasies are a safe way to explore your sexual desires. They’re not weird, everybody has them and they don’t make you a “pervert”, so don’t feel guilty about having them. Fantasies help you learn more about yourself and your romantic feelings, without having to act on them. They help you figure out what turns you on and what you’re comfortable with. You can learn a lot from fantasies - what you want to do and what you don’t - but a lot of fantasies will just stay as fantasies. It’s normal for people to fantasize about things that they wouldn’t be comfortable doing in real life. Or your fantasies can set the stage for real-life situations, and prepare you to act in a way that is true to yourself. They allow you to imagine having sex…without any of the real-life consequences.

In some cases, your fantasies may become too big a part of your day and you may spend more time in your head than on earth. Or, your fantasies become so life-like that you find it hard to hold back from trying them out in real life. In these situations, it may help to talk to someone you trust to help sort out your feelings.

Suggestions
Do what you need to do to answer your questions. Read books, fantasize, and ask a trusted friend lots of questions. Or if you’re comfortable, you can talk to your doctor, a school nurse, or a pharmacists - remember, unless you are in danger or have broken the law, whatever you talk about with your health care provider is confidential. Just remember that getting answers to your questions will help you grow as a healthy, mature sexual being.